“All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.” Raymond Hull. This describes my marriage. My husband and I have been married for 18 months. We’ve been together almost 6 years and yet we seem to have no time for each other. Between working 3rd shift, school and 3 kids, my husband seem more like business partners than lovers. I’M ON A QUEST TO BRING BACK THE PASSION IN OUR MARRIAGE, WHAT WE HAD WHEN WE FIRST GOT TOGETHER. For the next 30 days I will be spending 45 minutes 3 times a week with just my husband and me. This journey will either make us or break us!
If you’re not “getting” this quest, or you think its lame you’re most likely single, childless, or you have a nanny. To you I say “KEEP IT THAT WAY”. Really I wouldn’t change anything in my life, except for maybe the nanny part. Even if you do fall into one of the above categories you should still follow me on my quest, because if you ever do want a family you’ll see what to expect!
There are several different reasons why I chose this as my quest. I am a very independent woman; I’ve always been that way so being in a partnership has always been a struggle for me even after six years. My husband on the other hand is very much comfortable with being around me and the kids 24/7. He doesn’t worry about “guy” time, or needing a “man cave” he’s perfectly happy being at home with me and kids. I know most women dream of this. Me not so much I like my free time!
In June of this year I went from being in the insurance field with a 9-5 Monday thru Friday job to being a Corrections Officer working third shift Thursday thru Monday. Although my husband is very supportive he doesn’t understand the stress this type of job carries.
Again, like I brought up in the beginning there is the kid factor. We have three boys ages 12, 5 and 2. Our 12 year old Joel is actually my son from a previous relationship but his father is deceased and Chris is his only father figure. Joel has Asperger’s Syndrome which is a form of autism, you’ll learn about the stress that goes along with that. Have you seen Napoleon Dynomite? If you have, that’s what living with Joel is like. He’s weird, but he’s very smart and if he can get through the awkward teen years he will be amazing. Xavier is our 5 year old, well to simply put it Xavier is an asshole. He’s a funny, adorable, loveable asshole but he’s an asshole all the same. Yes, I just described my 5 year old as an asshole, you’ll hear more about him and you’ll agree just wait, don’t judge me. Then we have Mr. Leo, he is our baby. He’s sweet, smart, and cuddly but he’s a Daddy’s boy and that drives me crazy. As a matter of fact he refers to me as “Not Daddy”.
As you can see there are a lot of different factors that have brought me to this quest. I’m interested to see what this quest does for our partnership and to our family as a whole. Happy parents make for a happy family! I hope you will enjoy reading about my journey. I’m a say it like it is type of person so my quest will not be those for the faint at heart!
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