What's this quest doing for me...

Since I've taken on this quest I have learned that my husband and I show our love in different ways. Chris shows his love through affection. I show my love by supporting my family financially while my husband goes to school fulltime. How we like to be shown love is also very different. The way I find Chris shows he loves me is by making sure the house is clean, fixing dinner every night, making sure I can get enough sleep during the day because I work nights. This is how I feel Chris shows me he loves me. His idea of showing me he loves me is by constantly groping me. Making sexual advances. This is super frustrating for me.... and even now as I write this I see that even though I hate how he TRIES to show me love I still feel I receive love due to him doing the cooking and the cleaning. What I just now realized is that he likes to be shown love through sex and I only offer that up once a week and I bitch about it the whole time. If this is the only way he feels love then he must be feeling really neglected... and this must be why he's crabby so often.... THIS is why he says I don't put forth an effort in our relationship! Well... there you go this Quest just opened my eyes! When I first started writing this entry I was trying to think of ways this Quest has made a difference and I couldn't think of a single thing. I end it realizing it just made a huge difference.... Now what I do with that info?!? Where do we come to a happy medium?